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What is your IKIGAI?

I came across this term called “IKIGAI’ during a seminar and found it really interesting. IKIGAI, pronounced as “eye-ka-guy”, is a Japanese terminology which means “reason for living” or “life purpose” or “life mission”. You may ask yourself – what is the reason for your getting up from bed every morning that motivates you to go to work? What work can you do that you really enjoy doing and gives you self-satisfaction? The key is to finding the right balance between your Mission, Passion and Profession.

The 4 Questions you could ask

 According to IKIGAI, you ask yourself the below four questions:

 What do you love to do? ……..Mission

What are you good at, that you enjoy doing? …….. Passion

What does the world need? …..Vocation

What can you get paid for? …….Profession

The balance is found when your Mission converges with your Passion, map this to what other people need, and then, find a way to get Paid for it. Take a look at this diagram. Your IKIGAI lies in the centre of the four interconnecting circles.

The IKIGAI Diagram

When you work with a deep sense of purpose, then the commitment and quality of your work is high, and above all, you enjoy it. This is because a strong purpose involves having a wider perspective of how you could impact the larger community, so then, work down towards your goals.

Being a career success coach, I meet clients who are looking to transition to other career streams and often, a question that they have is, “What would be a suitable career that I could take up?”. Some even ask “What’s the purpose of my life?” and so on. I beleive, it’s for each of us to find out what is our purpose in life and then align our career accordingly.

I asked myself these questions, and got my answers. I enjoy coaching people, and nothing gives me greater satisfaction than when my clients tell me how the sessions changed things in their lives. 

I have found my IKIGAI !!

So, what’s your IKIGAI? Think about it. Would love to hear your comments about how you feel about this.

Midlife Career Change After 40;

Career Change After 40? SIX Conscious Thoughts to Help You Make A Midlife Career Change

A midlife career change can be very daunting and requires careful assessment. After the age of 40, many people working in service, go through those times wondering whether they are really enjoying their work. It can be the same for you.

At the beginning of their career, perhaps you were excited about the job, meeting new people, working with new technologies, working in a big organization. Over time, the work seemed monotonous or you just didn’t get the satisfaction that was expected. It’s also possible that you discovered new interests, were looking at flexible work hours, or just simply, earning more money.

Under such circumstances going for a career change is a great idea. However, before taking such a decision, it is necessary to evaluate the present scenario. For that, here are my 6 conscious thoughts that might help you in making a midlife career change:

1 – Why do you want to change your career?

There are two primary reasons for you to be motivated to change careers. One, you are motivated to move away from something that’s not working for you (like the work environment, the company culture, the nature of work, or just extreme work-pressure). Second, you are motivated to pursue specific interests and activities that you always wanted to do but could not due to other compulsions. Hence, it’s important for you to understand why you are looking for a change. What do you expect in your new career that you are not getting here?

Looking to have a fulfilling career - Ask yourself these 5 key questions
Why do you want to change your career?

2 – Are you clear on what you want to do in your alternate career?

Before planning any change, assess well what would be different when you do change the career. How would you like your new career to be? How will the change affect the people around you, especially your family members and your social circle? Brainstorm with your family and a few close friends. Consider your strengths, carry out some research and evaluate the new career options. Discuss with people who will support you, but at the same time also discuss with those who critique you. This is the best way to find out the pros and cons of the decision. 

3 – Consider working in the same industry

Look at work opportunities where you can utilize your existing skills. For instance, with whatever skills and work experience you have gathered over the years in your industry, would teaching professionals or recruiting people in the same industry be an option?

Look at work opportunities where you can utilize your existing skills.

4 – Value alignment and skills

It is important to align your core values with the demands of the work that you do, that will help you to stay positive irrespective of what career or job you seek. So, spend some time and understand what is important to you in your new avatar. Also, evaluate whether your current skill-set is sufficient for your new career, or will you require a different skill-set? If the new carer is a different industry, then it’s also possible that you may have to unlearn a few things. Estimate how much time you would take to learn this new set of skills.

5 – Understand the pitfalls of a midlife career change

The best way to understand the snares and dangers is to speak with multiple people who have traversed the same journey are now in the profession that you are looking for. What worked for them, and what didn’t! Learn from their experience. Put down all the possible challenges you could face but more importantly, for each of them, write down how you plan to overcome them.

Understand the snares and dangers in career change so that those can be addressed

6 – The Decision must be always yours

After considering all the parameters, the final decision for change should be only yours to make. Take complete responsibility for that decision. Also, it’s always a good practice to write down your ‘changed’ resume, meaning, what your resume would look like when you have taken it up with your new clients or companies.

Having done a successful career transition myself, I now enjoy coaching people to help them achieve theirs. Do reach out for any questions and I would be happy to help. Midlife career change doesn’t have to be that daunting.

Dear Zindagi – let me know how to get there

Dear Zindagi – let me know how to get there

The movie ‘Dear Zindagi’ very beautifully portrays the challenges of the dramatically changing times in today’s fast paced world. People all around us lack a confidante or a guide in our lives, and a Life Coach (called ‘Dimaag ka doctor’ in the movie) is just what we need in these circumstances. The movie shows that going to a ‘dimaagka doctor’ does not require a person to be mentally unstable, and there is nothing to be ashamed of or be apologetic about it. Kaira (Alia Bhat) is grappling with breakups, loneliness, being single, relationship issues with parents, career choices, dating choices, a bad past, and aspires to reach the peak of success at a young age. It’s up to Dr Khan (Shah Rukh Khan) to bring in some calm into her life and make her face her worst fears. Dr Khan never gives her solutions although she seeks answers, but always asks probing questions, and uses stories and metaphorical examples to explain, and then, it is entirely Kaira’s responsibility to act on them. That’s exactly what life coaching is all about!

The movie demonstrates the typical problems each one of us faces, and it is natural to get professional help from a Coach. A qualified Coach is trained to help the client establish the goal, remove limiting beliefs that come in the way, and motivate the client towards achievement of the goal. The Coach does not give advice as is the general myth, but instead engages the client in a collaborative dialog that stimulates the client’s thought process to find their own solutions. When Kaira falls off her bicycle and Dr Khan doesn’t help her up as the Coaching Session time is up, he playfully peddles away, and Kaira is left to help herself. The Coach encourages the clients to pick themselves up and get on with their lives, thus shifting the responsibility back on them.

Kaira was fortunate to come across Dr Khan, so she could take his help, but what about the millions who are in this situation and have not realized where the answer lies? We require a better job, a change of career, better finances, mend a broken relationship, improve our business, want to be healthy, and many more. The personal pressures are many, and each one of us needs a Coach, a guiding hand, an independent entity that can hold a mirror to us to reflect on what is happening in our lives,so that we are able to tide over those obstacles.

Fortunately, there is help at hand, and a good Coach can truly make a difference to the life of an individual.

However, how would it be if you had the opportunity to learn some coaching skills that would help you or your colleagues and friends to deal with their issues?